anyagirl16's Datingish

japanese romance

Mon, 29 Sep 2008 12:03:28 GMT

okay, ya, it's kinda cheesy...but it'll all make sense later.

Remember that guy that i like, that I called about his birthday gift back in...july? Well, last wed (i believe) i discussed with him it again, and somehow we got onto the topic of the Japan Festival nearby.

It's always been really fun, i go every year. He's never been to it, so we decided that's where we'd go. I think on a good note, there were also a lot of anime club people (ya...i'm treasurer and was incharge of organizing the Japan Festival "trip"). My poor guy didn't know anyone, and stayed with me (hehe, how cute).

he was there from 10:30-around 5ish or a little later. WOW, OVER 6 HOURS! We're pretty close now, whether just friends or not.

Around...2ish i'd say, we lost the group of 7+ and it was just me and him strolling around and looking at different exhibits ect. I obviously bought him lunch, and we either talked, hung out, looked at how expensive everything was and would soon lower prices down around 7:00. I had a lot of fun, and i'm sure he did too.

Cute random moments:
   When i asked him to come, he originally said there was a Renaissance Festival (if you don't know what that is...i feel bad) and that he had to leave at 1:00. Well...at like 12:30 i go, "Don't you have the Ren Fest today?"
    Him: "oh ya...no. I was mistaken, it's next weekend! But i'll have to leave earlier than you guys" (Which is about.... eh 7or 8 ((note: I didn't make it that long, none of us did...))
   me: "why?"
   Him: "tatoo..'
   me: O_o (note, he's not the kind of guy to do that...but i guess he is? haha)
                    --so he ended up staying over 4 hours later!!! <3

    At lunch i laid my head on his shoulder (i was tired) and my other guy friend did a heart on us with his hand and was like "how cute" I was like "i'd flick you off, but there are children around." So my 'crush' picked up a book and put it between Robert ('other guy friend) and me and i half flicked him off--i freaked out b/c i don't usually flick people off...i've only done it one other time...and They didn't even see it...*hangs head* So disappointed

   dropped a quarter, and like a good gentleman, he bent down to pick it up, sadly, so did i. So we bent down together (just like in the movies--lol), silent pause, and he stopped and i picked it up.

He said (since he's going to college next year, damn him) he'd take off a weekend to come back. (my friend thinks it's because of me....i'm not sure. mixed feelings from him...)

He would ALWAYS try to sit by me. Whether that was just because he really only knows me and i'm the only upper classman (that actually ACTS like an upperclassmen (there was one guy who's a junior too....but he acts like a soph. or freshman....) or he likes me. I went both ways.

Oh! At the end, he left around 5ish and i half walked him to his car only to realize that i wanted to go buy stuff, but i said "i'll see ya later! Don't forget! My birthday's on Thursday! (which it is...)" but i said it sarcastically because he always gives me gifts for my birthday (note, they weren't on my birthday). So then, around 6:30 I call him back, but he didn't pick up. I then called my mother, only to have him call me back. i said "WOAH, you actually called back!!!" And i just basically said how i had JUST left and he laughed.... 1 hour and 1/2 later...

So anyway, That was my saturday. We never held hands, or anything like that. (which i'm kinda happy)

Oh_---- he's not japanese by the way......... And to know more, just look at my 2nd or 3rd post....

Well, i finally did a slightly romantic one! go me!!! yay

well, off to school, see ya!

Sunday, September 21, 2008

Sun, 21 Sep 2008 14:09:07 GMT

Eh hehehe.......my bad............... its been a month.........

People wanted to hear about the job, so i shall say it!

Other htan the fact that basically everyone sleeps together, parties together and works together, it's good! I dont do any of those things, nor am i asked. so i dont mind. we're all basically nice to each other at work.

I had 2 weeks where i worked more than 30 hours. one 32 and one 30.5 hours. T_T that was a stressful week, so now i don't work that much b/c i asked for no more htan 20 hours, but i might have to change it b/c now i'm only getting 12 hours, i need more than that (but i also asked for fri and sat off and i can't work on monday, tues, or wed.... )

so this week is gonna be GREAT!

oh, and last night there was the Art Fair, or something like that, and i played my viola.

I played for 2 or alittle more hours...and i got exactly $70. I made less than 20 for the first hour, but i got to the 2nd hour and if you can do math, i made at least $50!!! i find that amazing significantly better Than price chopper, but........................... its a lot more convienient.

so yes, ummmm school.....dont knwo if I wanna talk about that. I still like the same guy, so no new changes, but he said "I'm not good at calling people back."

me: "WOW, no KIDDING?!"

so i'm off now! busy busy. best wishes to you all!

The Job...

Sat, 16 Aug 2008 23:47:35 GMT

Well, as approximately 158 people know... I needed assistance for a job interview.

Thank you to 4 lovely people, melsie, Happybunni21, bittersweet_symphony, and LaBellaMorena, who so kindly gave me advice.

My clothes: I've learned i need to buy slacks. i have NO slacks...especially black ones. I ended up going in a lovely Capri jeans, a black sleeveless Asian front looking shirt (with the V cut) and a white button down shirt that i left unbuttoned. I thought it looked nice....

Anyway, i went there...it took less than 10 minutes.......... he never asked me my strengths and weaknesses, old jobs-whether i liked them or not, how i knew my friend at Price Chopper, my times i could work. Pretty basic, but i was ready. and scared to death.

After that i went home.... today he called me (one day later ^_~) and said "are you still interested in the job?"

me: T_T...no dude, i went yesterday just to mess with my mind. What i actually said: "yes i am"

there's orientation tomorrow at 2.

soooooooooooooooooooooooo

I GOT THE JOB!!! WHOOOO

$7.00 an hour, and they do this thing were you actually get 7:50, but the 50 cents goes into your college fund that you get..when you go to college!! So i thought that was cool ^.^

sounds like a lovely place, go Price Chopper!

so thanks to melsie, Happybunni21, bittersweet_symphony, and LaBellaMorena for all your advice!! And to mommy, who is always there for rme but will never read this >_< (but yay, haha)

HELP MEE!

Thu, 14 Aug 2008 22:23:31 GMT

*runs around frantically* i dont know which is worse, a first date or a job interview.

Help me! I need any tips from anyone and everyone.

Tomorrow at 3:00 pm i have my first ever job interview...that's by myself. I had one other job interview for a nanny job..but my mother came with me.
I dont know how to dress, what to wear, other than "be yourself" tips, i know nothing.

Love and relationships aren't in my life right now, i need no tips, but this i need help for! Give me tips, stories...ANYTHING for job interviews!!

What is the job? you ask? Well, its a local price chopper, for those who dont know what Price Chopper is it's a grocery store!

Wish me luck, and don't forget tips!! thank you!!
~Worried Anya

Monday, August 11, 2008

Mon, 11 Aug 2008 14:31:24 GMT

goodness, i am back again. I've been gone a lot lately during this summer.

Well, went to North Dakota and Minnesota for family things, ended up being BETTER than expected. (actually, it was GREAT who'd a thought!?)

My relatives and my family (mother and father) never really got along. We love each other, but i think only because we are family. I barely know my cousins because we always had to drive the 7 Plus hours to their house because they never came down to us. So finally, we said "screw it" and we haven't been up there except for one graduation and my grandmother's funeral 6 years ago. So basically: bad relationship. i tried e-mail, but they never responded back, so i gave up.

But after this trip, we're significantly closer than before (which is next to nothing) and i actually enjoyed myself. We (my 5 other cousins) all hung out during the duration of the Family reunion here and there. I hope to be in contact more, which means.......................i might have to get facebook....*cries in corner* i vowed that i'd NEVER get facebook because as soon as i show up, people move to other places and i'm stuck by myself...again...But we'll see what happens. I'm proud to say that i was only bitten 5 times by those evil mosquitoes, which is significantly better than previous occasions...*goes to cry in corner about past experiences*

OKAY, i'm back. Then we (my aunt, mother, cousin, and i) later went to the Mall of America where i bought....................................nothing. Never made it to the CD store...and i couldn't remember anything i needed anyway.

The next day my mother and I went to St. Cloud State and toured there. Nice place. Later that night my other Aunt and Uncle came over and we all hung out at the house, i played for my aunt and showed her my china pictures. We also went to the famous Sammy's Pizza...which is really good in St. Cloud

Next day: Went to St. Ben's and St. John's (same college, but one's women's and the other is Men's) jez, can you say almost perfect? They dont have an international Business program, which made me sad. but oh well. great orchestra, free paper and laundry and japanese and chinese. We'll see about it. oh...it took 5 hours...the whole tour... 5 HOURS. they shouldn't make it that long, but what can i say..... Anyway, yup...

then we left there and drove over to North Dakota where we hung out with family...had grandma's 80th birthday party. Went GREAT! My parents and I decorated the very white room and it looked AWESOME! Many compliments. I met a younger girl and we hung out the whole time, saw my grandparent's neighbors. Their eldest son...nah, i wont mention him anymore. Love is a dangerous thing. had tons of fun there.

then...we left.....*cries in corner* I wanted to stay longer, but my mom can't always handle long drives, so i drove home with her. we made it in 10 hours, which is better than expected.

So now we're home and yet again, i woke up at 7:00AM but i got to (and am) still talking to my old friend whom i haven't chatted with in... weeks....................but its nice to say hi to him and such.

Anyway: i'm back home! and staying! School starts soon..........so pray for me

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Tue, 29 Jul 2008 13:53:30 GMT

I wrote this poem. it sucks, i know it, but its a rough draft. Tell me what you think.

About: This is for every friend who ever blocked me online, even though i have no clue what i did...

(fear it, it sucks and its long and somewhat dramatized...i tried to rhyme...and it became this...)

My dear friend, an Angel sent from above,

What did I do?

Please tell me

To make you mad

Or make you sad

Enough to block me from your life

Did I do something wrong?

Did I say something bad

To make you mad

Or hurt

Or sad?

I’m sorry if I did

Forgive me,

Talk to me

Tell me how I can fix what I don’t understand

Because you helped me be able to stand

When I was scared to face my fears so please

Tell me

Tell me how this right?

What did I do?

I wish to know

Tell me

So I can fix what I might have done

And better understand what’s gone wrong

This is not like you

Help me

Understand this problem

Because I cannot bear to have my life

Without you for much longer

You are my friend, an Angel

You made me laugh

And told me things

I could have not heard from other beings

Our friendship is important to me

And I hope it is the same to you

Maybe it is, maybe not

But please tell me before my life rots

I am your friend

And will always be there for you

But tell me

Tell me

What I must do:

1. To better understand why you’ve locked the door

2. To be better friends forever more

*end*

Give me feedback, or not. oh, this thursday i'm leaving for Family, etc. wont be back until the 10th of August.

So ya, feedback and see y'all later

back and with an old love story!

Sun, 27 Jul 2008 04:20:01 GMT

hey everyone! I'm Back!!!!

Did you miss me?

Anywhoo's, had fun in Oklahoma. Took six hours to get there, and five coming back. I'm so proud i improved.

Well, i promised a gushy-love story...and i have a love story from my past.

It was 2 years ago this month. I've truly only been on a date with one man (so far). His name was Chris and he was the same age as me. Originally, we 'saw' each other at our friend's Bar Mitzvah. They were classmates and my relationship toAndrew, the person with the Bar Mitzvah, was the fact that my personal friend was his girlfriend. I barely noticed his existence and i have no idea if he noticed me that day.

Well, around six to eight months later he found me on xanga. He had told me he was a friend of Andrew (the boy who had the Bar Mitzvah). So he wasn't any predator, i thought to myself. We talked online for a month, plus, during the summer. (forgive the lack of details...) After a few weeks, i found out from Andrew, who i also talk to online, that Chris wanted to ask me out. As if out of a book of foreshadowing, he told me that Chris used to smoke, drink, etc. I just pushed it aside: a guy liked me, he can change. No problem. He was always very sweet. I asked him out the following 5 days later. It turned out he was 30 miles away, but due to the fact we were underage for driving, meeting was very hard, but we managed.

But, coincidentally, his ex-girlfriend started talking to me. (to this day i'm not sure how she found out about me... ???) The first time i got her im's was when i was gone, but accidentally left my aim system on (which rarely happens...but i'm human). She was a very angry person, what most would call a "bitch" but i just assumed she was jealous, which she was. I treated her as nice as could, but didn't appreciate her assuming i thought she was a bitch even though i had never met her. She would say that Chris was with her, etc etc, and would then blame the conversation on the children she was babysitting saying that THEY wrote it... Sad but true... (again: foreshadowing!)

Our first date had been at the mall, and if that wasn't bad enough, my friend came along. (supposed to be a double date...but her boyfriend was afraid of Malls? ...ya...dont ask.....) So basically....it was a girls day out..with a guy to tag along. He was sweet and bought me a pretzel, which i didn't want him to do...but what can i say?

Helpful tip from me: Never EVER make the first date the mall. I thought the movies would be better, but no one listens to me ... *sigh*

And since the only way we communicate was online, obviously my friends wanted in on the conversations. So we allowed it--- he called my friend a cracker. For those who dont know what that is, it's a rude saying for a white person. Very rude. (again: foreshadowing and as Ms_Frappuccino said "red flags") Then my friends continued to say "dont date him anymore" but did i listen? no. i told them he was different to me. ((luckily i've learned that i must listen to others--love really does make you blind))

Finally, near the end of July, we had our first 'official' date. he had bought tickets of this huge radio concert thing. They were for the front area, in the middle. Great seats. It was my first date, first hand holding experience and first time i ever was so close to a guy that wasn't family (ex: hugs). it was a perfect night.

That night i did not kiss him, i remember going home, past 10:00, and telling my mother everything. I told her i wish i had kissed him. (she thought i actually had! How hysterical! yes, i'm 16 and never been kissed, how sad...)
Well, later that week i was leaving for California. 1-2 weeks later i came back home and found that he had dumped me (via aim from him personally). He had said that he'd been thinking about it, being 30 min. away was too long of a distance, especially during high school.
-what's funny about that was that i was thinking it too, but felt that after that date that we could make it work...?

what hurt me most was the fact that he had been thinking/ was planning on ending our 'relationship' before the rock-band concert. It hurt the most because that was the night i truly fell in love with him.....

And you know what was even worse? he went back with the girlfriend that gave me so much grief!
One thing i do remember was that he did not seem happy about it. the "relationship from hell" he called it. Dumb-founded me. Anyway, they broke up a month or so later. she even texted me on xanga and said "you can have him" ....why would i want him back?
After all that I was extremely hurt. I was a sad little lonely girl again.

it took me 6 months to finally realize how grateful i was to have experienced that pain. It was my first break up, but also my first ever concert and date! He had showed me what i had always dreamed about and can hope for in the future.

We did not talk for several months after that experience. I later apologized for being so rude, wanting to be friends only because my mother said i should (yes, i follow mother's orders) but he never read it... oh well.

When i started talking to him, he was really screwed up. Car accidents, had it all, asylum too. He had been going through a tough time, and still isn't out of it, i dont think. he is still lost, and whenever i think about him, i pray for him. (not crazy way, just wishing him well...) Luckily now he's better, but isn't quite at a happy spot in his life either.

He changed my life, and broke my heart. I have forgiven and i shall never forget.

To chris, my first love and heart-breaker, thank you for the memories.

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

Wed, 23 Jul 2008 03:15:53 GMT

rawr: yes i realize i'm slow at doing stuff... been ubberly busy. no excuse, i know.

Anyway: i'm going to be leaving for Oklahoma tomorrow and wont be back till Saturday, for those who i contact frequently.

sorry for the delay... i'll post something gushy later ^_~

happy story!

Sun, 13 Jul 2008 20:10:53 GMT

hey everyone! Thank you to all who commented, and thank you for all who WILL comment in the future.

Everyone has heard about all the divorces going on? Just as many people are getting married as they are getting divorces. People get divorces for many reasons, along with many excuses. Who's to blame? who knows. And every couple has problems, just because you're fighting with your partner doesn't mean you should quit. I heard this quote a few days ago and this angel said "Love does not end because they stopped loving, but because they stopped trying." never stop trying to continue loving someone.

Anyway, today at church we somehow got on the topic of that exactly 22 years ago on a sunday (which happens to be today, amazing!) was the first day my parents started to date.

Here's their story:
A few months, or a year or so (basically, it wasn't too long before that sunday) that my parents met. They were both dating another person, but they actually MET on this day. My mom was being the phone person for the Bus company and my dad was doing inspection for the buses. My mom was behind a glass wall, as the story goes, sitting back doing basically nothing. Then my father walks by (note: he's EXTREMELY blonde and has blue eyes... i got his characteristics ^.^) and my mom says (probaby to her co-worker) "hey, look at the blue eyed albino!" Then within a few minutes they were talking, but as stated earlier-- they were dating other people. After that day they didn't see each other for a while.

Then, 22 years later TO THE DAY, they were at this festival (i forgot what kind...) and there was this huge stair case. Just like in the movies, my mother, with her long flowing brown hair, was at the top of the stairs, and my father, same as described earlier, was at the bottom. They ran to the middle to meet each other and hugged, saying "OH! Its you! how wonderful to see you!" They had both broken up with their earlier partners and were currently single. So they started dating that day, 22 years ago.

Around 2 years later, on a hot day in August, my parents got married. To this day, they're still happily married and still kickin'! This year, on August 20th, my parents will have been married for 20 years! And like any other marriage, they had their fights and were close to divorce, but they did not 'stop trying.' I'm proud to say they're my parents, and much love to them. Cheers to 20 long years together, and may it continue for another 20!

So there's my happy story! Hope everyone enjoyed it, feel free to give any extra advice and previous things, i hope i can help you just as much as many of you have helped me.

Lots of love,
~anya

first entry_assistance needed

Sat, 12 Jul 2008 04:00:18 GMT

whoo first entry!

Anyway, since we're on "datingish" i thougth i'd do something "datingish." so here goes nothing!

Please welcome me to this site, but here's my slight dilemma:

Never been a big person on love, and I've already accepted and taken into my life the idea that i'm way too young to be 'in love' and shall be married within the week. But i've never had a long relationship.

Well, there's this guy i've liked for... around 4 years, its his senior year (which really sucks... i dont know where he's going to college...so... ya...) and i would like to ask him on a date. A year and a half from now i had asked him on a date that friday. Sadly, our orchestra (which we are both in) had to go to a concert. That night that i asked him, he exclaimed that. (sadly, i was at another symphony ordeal and obviously couldn't talk to him) We never actually went on a date after that, which bumbed me out! But within a few months after that, we were close as friends.

Now we are still close friends, but i still really like him but no one is sure if he likes me. We act as friends, but my friends think he's nice enough that he'd say yes if i asked him out, but i want to know if he means it or not... Maybe i'm not making sense...

Anyway: for the past 2 years, he's always gotten me birthday gifts and, sadly, his birthday is in the summer and i can never find the right gift. So as a slight 'nudge' but not fully meaning to, i left a message on his cellular device that I wanted to take him to lunch, my treat, as his gift. Sadly, he's not responded but he's been known to be out of the country during the summer months. ((promise to call him later on that... haha))
I really like this guy, obviously not going to go marry him NOW, but i like him... but i dont want to lose his friendship either...

So...for all of you rather more experienced than i: Should i persue this possible dating relationship? or should i keep us as friends?